This and That

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Well it’s that time. I go back to work Monday and I am having bitter sweet feelings about it.

I am so blessed to be going back to my old job, where I worked for almost 5 years,. I LOVE this job, the company, and the people. I am super excited to be using my mind on other things than my boys and having more adult interaction. It will be nice to get out of the house and when I am home have quality time with the boys instead of just the quantity of time.

But, I am sad and anxiousness about missing them and not getting to see their cute faces all day long. I am nervous about the big transition this will be for our whole family as we adjust into a new routine. Being a working mom and all the duties and responsiblites that it entails makes my heart start racing and my hands shake.

But I am excited.

But I am also sad.

I have a thousands different emotions in a matter of seconds.

I am so fortunate that I have supportive family and friends that will be loving and watching the boys while I am at work. These people not only love my boys but they love me and hubby just as much. They are so happy to help my family through this time. Hubby and I feel so blessed to have such wonderful people in our lives!

So we are in for a big change and the transition will most likely be hard and last at least a few months. Yet this is good, so good. God has paved this path for me and I couldn’t be more thrilled. My family is in God’s hands and His hands will take care of us.

Wish us luck next week and we could definitely use the prayers!

I go through this list every week. This is the list of things I want to accomplish for my family and for myself. This list never gets fully accomplished and at the end of every week I am disappointed about the items that were pushed to the back burner.

My weekly list includes:

Things for my family:

  • Caring and spending quality time with my kids together
  • Spending quality time with each child individually
  • Having alone time with my hubby
  • Making sure we do fun family outings

Household things:

  • Cooking yummy dinners that also challenge me as a cook
  • Keeping the house from looking like a pig sty
  • Maintaining the family budget and savings goals
  • Keeping the dirty clothes pile or ironing pile from reaching the ceiling

Things for myself:

  • Blogging five times a week
  • Writing my, not-yet but hope to be someday, book
  • Exercising three times a week
  • Doing my bible study homework
  • Seeing or at least chatting with my friends a few times a week
  • Getting some alone time maybe once a week

Anyone else have this list?

The items that usually get the shaft are the things for me: exercise, writing, seeing friends, and alone time. It’s in a woman’s, a mother’s nature to sacrifice herself for the family. The perfect example of this is the show The Biggest Loser. The women on that show all have the same story. They are moms that gave it all for their family, left nothing for themselves, and now they are obese with multiple health problems.

It’s a battle to tell ourselves it’s okay to be selfish sometimes, to make the things for us a priority, or to ask hubby to take on the main care giver role a couple of hours on the weekend so I can have a break.

Recently I asked hubby to help me clean the house on the weekends so during weekly nap time I might have time to exercise, or write, or read. He agreed of course because he is wonderful.

So this is my new initative: to be a little more selfish; not to always let my stuff get the raw end of the deal. My goal is to remember that besides being a wife and a mother I am an individual with goals and desires that deserve to be met.

Can I get an amen?

Any mom out there succeed in this struggle? Any tips or advice?